Intimacy and Relationship Education

Hello you, This week’s Substack was a hard one to write, which is probably part of why I needed to write it. I wrote about something I’ve been noticing in myself for a while now: the way I can slip into a version of myself that feels desirable, easy, generous, sexually fluent…while not actually being fully myself. Anybody else? I think a lot of us do this in one form or another. We become the version of ourselves that feels least likely to be rejected. We perform. We shapeshift into what we...

Hello you, I landed in LA on Friday night and it feels so good to be back in Southern California! The weather is perfect and I'm having a blast already, counting down the days to my 40th birthday on Tuesday. I'm delighted to be celebrating it here. For those who hasn't known me long, a bit of history. I was born and raised in Pennsylvania, finishing grad school with my masters in Philosophy in 2010. I lived in the Philly suburbs after I graduated and worked first at the Philadelphia District...

Hello you, I just got back from an incredible trip with Nick! I was one of the Sexperts on the Temptation Grand Cruise. The ship left out of Miami last Sunday and sailed to Costa Maya and Cozumel before heading back on Friday. Nick and I flew into Miami on Saturday the 28th and enjoyed a magical waterfront dinner in Miami with some of the best seafood we've ever had. We had hot sexy reunion sex in our hotel room (we hadn't seen each other since New Years!) and woke up the next morning to...

Hello you, You can love someone deeply and still feel thrown off by the distance. When you can’t reach for their hand, kiss them in the kitchen, or crawl into bed together at the end of the night, it takes more intention to stay erotically connected. And for a lot of people, that’s where things start to wobble. The flirtation gets inconsistent. Sexting feels awkward. Phone sex feels intimidating. The ache of missing each other turns into frustration, loneliness, or a whole lot of “we should...

Hello friend! Quick question: have you ever had a fantasy you meant to talk about… and then it turned into a vague “we should do that sometime” and quietly died? Same. It’s so common. And it’s usually not about confidence. It’s about not having a next sentence. So I’m offering a free workshop to help with that. The heart of it is what I call the Erotic Huddle. It’s the series of conversations that happen before the scene that make role play feel easy instead of awkward. You’ll learn how to go...

Hello you deliciously complicated human, Every November the internet dares you to go 30 days without orgasm. Cute meme. Terrible sex education. I recently published a new Substack post unpacking “No Nut November”...why it’s rooted in sexual shame, what it gets wrong about pleasure, and what to do instead. It’s part science, part sass, and 100% permission to enjoy your body. Read it here: Keep the Nuts, Lose the Shame Coming up next week: Meeting Your Body Where It Is (on Zoom) Wednesday,...

Hey you, I just got back from the Desire Athens-Rome Cruise, and wow! What a trip! Nick (Canadian Daddy) and I spent ten glorious days wandering through Greece and Italy, soaking in art, history, and obscene amounts of olive oil, bread, and gelato. We had a balcony cabin on the stunning Oceania Marina, and every detail, from the service to the sea views, felt wildly luxurious. You know how this Taurus babe loves decadence. One of my favorite moments was watching Dita Von Teese perform on our...